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Encouragement

Raiding guilds have off days, everybody has an off day, and all the off days seem to happen to all of the same people on all of the same days. Think of it like that thing where women syncronize their vaginal bleeding. It’s exactly like that.

Today was one of those off days, we got the first four bosses down no problem (which is something even PuGs can do nowadays), Blood Princes took a couple of wipes, and then BQL took the rest of the evening, and she’s still alive. The problem was this:

  • We had new players, they hadn’t been in this raid before, they don’t know how we work, they don’t know the tactics, they’re generally unprepared for teamwork.
  • It was just generally a bad day, we had disconnects and lag, the usual suspects.
  • There was no team cohesion, the new players hadn’t found their spot in the groups yet, the healing team was working with people they didn’t know, the DPS team was working with people they didn’t know.

Bearing in mind that runs like that are highly frustrating on all sides, one has to question “at what point does one speak up and say ‘this sucks'”? Perhaps I underestimate the job of an officer, but we’re all under the same pressure, we all have our jobs and roles to do in battle and we all get extremely pissed off when people disconnect, or make stupid mistakes that wipes the rest of us.

But there’s no reason to make it worse by throwing anger and rage into the mix. Having a polite word to somebody who messes up is fine, it might put them on the right track, it might not. If it doesn’t, step it up, call them out in raid and make them feel that single sense of utter shame at having screwed up. But by god don’t drag it out and pretend your shit doesn’t stink, and don’t pretend you know everything you don’t and then go nosing into other peoples business about how they can improve.

Yes, the healing team isn’t perfect, but am I the only one who feels extremely patronized by being constantly yelled at over vent “keep me healed!” or “who’s healing during the blood whirl phase?”, as if they’re not completely fucking naive questions. I don’t yell at you over vent “keep tanking!” or “so who’s tanking during the air phase” because they’re obvious question with obvious answers. Sure, if you phrase it as “which healer is healing me“, but when you phrase it was “which healers are healing (generally)” then it’s just downright patronizing, as if we’re all suddenly going to stop and say “here Pendulus it’s your turn!”.

Apart from the stupid questions and patronizing requests (as if I press all the pretty buttons thinking I’m actually tanking?), the whole negative attitude is just downright annoying. Being told every wipe that “we all suck” and our attempts are “shit” does not help morale in any way at all. Yes, we know that that attempt was bad, hence why we wiped, we don’t need an overzealous officer breathing down our necks. And hey, if we do then where’s the officer clapping us all on a job well done when we do something?

So being yelled at sticks better, you remember the negativity, but that’s only if it’s something so directed at you that you want to curl into a ball and cry (and being singled out in a raid for a mistake certainly makes you do that), but being droned at every day for sucking generally just gets tiring, I’m bored of hearing TJ yelling on vent about everybody’s problems except his own, and I’m bored of the attitude of “we say it shut up you scrubby raider” that the officers seem to have whenever anybody disputes something they say.

I called them out on it today, the fact that there’s never any positive reinforcement, that no person ever gets singled out for a bloody good job, only that we’re droned at and fined and hated for failing. Where’s my DKP bonus for being a damn good healer or saving the raid with some quick witted decisions, or my whisper from TJ about being a good player. They’re certainly few and far between, much fewer than the constant whining over Ventrilo that everybody needs to get a grip. We know that, stop wearing out the damn phrase. Keep whining at us and eventually we’ll just be immune to it, we’ll get bored of it and we’ll leave. Raiding will feel more like a chore, it doesn’t help that Cataclysm is on the horizon and raiding ICC feels chore-ish already, we don’t need more reasons to resent raiding. The thrill of “getting the Lich King down” will only go so far, and nobody in Wrath of Wisdom can honestly be deluded enough to think that we’ll be able to manage it on Heroic any time before the release of Cataclysm (at which point we’ll move onto new content anyway).

Out of twenty five people, two of them were officers who immediately spoke down to me in their mighty fashion, twenty one of them said nothing, didn’t read it or just grunted in an uncaring fashion, and one, just one person whispered me saying they agreed that the negative aura was putting a dampener on the guild, which was bittersweet because they also told me to stop wasting my time trying and things would never change.

Maybe they’re right, and maybe I’m just like TJ in that I want the best for the guild but I’m going the wrong way about it. I certainly see the irony in getting annoyed at TJ bitching constantly when this whole blog is just that, but there’s a different: I can see potential and I can be positive about it. Being told you suck and never told you rock will leave you a hollow shell with no self confidence, I get enough of that shit in real life, I don’t need more of it when I go to the only place I really can escape to.

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  1. Esmi
    May 12, 2010 at 10:16 pm

    Cheer up, I know it sucks, and we’ll try to be more encouraging. 🙂

  2. sheepless
    May 12, 2010 at 11:09 pm

    It aint good that officers are behaving this way. They should be supportive and trying to mooden things up when things go wrong. Screaming and flaming does not help in anyway. This game should be played because its fun, not only out of obligation to the people in the guild for progress. I aint an officer, but i should still appologize to everyone on my behalve. This kinda attitude aint appropiate for wrath of wisdom.

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